Government, Nonprofit & Education: Mid February Edition
February 16, 2021 – Upcoming Events, Opportunities & Resources
From the Advisor:
Rejection may be a fact of life… but it still stings
Hey Hoyas! How’s the semester treating you? This week sure is a busy one, what with our Hoyas for Others Networking Night this evening, and the Government Education and Nonprofit Career Fair on Friday!
That means that, yes, we are starting to get into the busy season for my industries. And with great opportunities also comes its awful twin: rejection. The fact is, most of you are incredibly accomplished individuals, who have seen an awful lot of success in life. For many, coming into our office is predicated by the fact that you’ve received your first, sound “no.” Whether it is getting rejected from a law school you always wanted to go to, not getting an internship you thought was in the bag, to failing the foreign service exam (for no understandable reason), or shoot- getting a job rescinded due to Covid. There is no way around it other than to say it sucks.
And I should know! I recently received a rejection from a post-graduate certificate program to which I applied. I, like many of you, worked hard on my application, sought my recommenders with care, read, re-read, and re-read again my materials to make sure that I followed my own advice. And still the answer was, “yeah… no thanks.” Dang! I am an adult – you know supposed to have life figured out – and I still found myself fighting back tears in between my one on one appointments with you all.
The simple fact is whether in the job hunt or in broader life, rejection (like death and taxes) will always be there in ways big and small. And it stinks. Yet, rejection can also be a great teacher, and can tell us much about the true nature of a person’s character. It can be a chance for us to learn, grow and adapt, or rejection can turn us inward into bitter, angry, vindictive people.
I try, as much as I may want to go the other way, to learn to grow. And sometimes I think that is the more difficult part. Here are a few things I’ve learned that may help you when you face the sting of rejection:
- Give yourself time to feel all the feels. Be angry. Be upset. Be sad. Cry, Scream. Just go ahead and let it out (constructively, please… no punching holes in walls or anything like that). Give yourself a set time limit (an hour, a day, a weekend) to wallow. Then…
- Pick yourself up. Dry those eyes and blow your nose. Look for something to get you out of yourself (in a healthy way). Go for a run or walk outside. Treat yourself to a favorite coffee or treat (hello Baked & Wired, anyone?). Call a friend who you haven’t chatted with in a while, and just get out of yourself for a moment.
- After you’ve had some time, look back at your situation. Was the internship one you really wanted? Or, is it something you applied for because you thought you should. Take some time to really think about your motivations. Sometimes the rejections don’t come as much of a surprise (think, “yeah I wasn’t really on during that interview.” or, “Something about the culture or the job didn’t appeal to me). If the opposite is true, take some time to re-examine your documents and approaches and identify one or two things to try differently next time.
- Understand it isn’t about you. The job hunt is as much about luck and timing as anything else. We never know what forces we are up against. Some jobs may have already picked someone to fill it, but they have to post the announcement for legal reasons. Or perhaps a grad school had its funding cut due to the pandemic. Or, is an organization just not accepting as many interns due to the unknown in our current situation. I hate to sound trite, but the whole, “It’s not you… it’s me.” applies to organizations, too.
- If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again. Yup – that ole quote rings true for a reason. Especially in the job hunt, you have to keep putting yourself out there.
In the meantime, we do have a career fair this week, so if you haven’t had a chance, be sure to sign up for individual employer sessions. I also suggest watching this how-to video guide (new window) on virtual career fair registration and reading Handshake’s Top 10 Tips to help prepare (new window).
Hope you all have a great week, Hoyas! Stay well (and warm!)
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